Link We Like: 5 Ways to Fight Entitlement in Your Kids

We all want the best for our children, no doubt. However, somewhere in the messiness of raising and “loving” our children we cross a line to overindulgence. It’s not hard in our culture. In fact, sometimes we are blind to the fact that we give our children their every ask, want, need and desire. In the natural relationship of caring, providing, and fulfilling our task as parents it’s difficult to help our children think outside of themselves, to fight that urge of thinking everything is “mine” and that the world exists to meet every want that is voiced.

It comes quickly friends. Before you know it you have an, “I want it! That’s mine! I need it!” monster on your hands and you sit in surprising awe of the whining/screaming/throw themselves on the floor little person that belongs to you.

So what do you do?
First, you must check the mirror.
How do you act, speak, relate to stuff that you posses or don’t?
Are you being an example to your children?
Are you content with what you have or are you constantly looking on the other side where you think it’s greener?

Today’s post will give 5 more ways you can help this entitlement phenomenon that has plagued your children and mine. Check out today’s Link We Like: Orange Parents.

Choose Jesus

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Matthew 19:16-22 (HCSB)

The Rich Young Ruler

16 Just then someone came up and asked Him, “Teacher, what good must I do to have eternal life?”

17 “Why do you ask Me about what is good?”[a] He said to him. “There is only One who is good.[b] If you want to enter into life, keep the commandments.”

18 “Which ones?” he asked Him. Jesus answered:

Do not murder;
do not commit adultery;
do not steal;
do not bear false witness;
19 honor your father and your mother;
and love your neighbor as yourself.[c]

20 “I have kept all these,”[d] the young man told Him. “What do I still lack?”

21 “If you want to be perfect,”[e] Jesus said to him, “go, sell your belongings and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow Me.”

22 When the young man heard that command, he went away grieving, because he had many possessions.

If you are like me, it would be easy to read this passage, point our finger, while shaking our heads, judging this “rich young ruler” and thinking, “what a dumb choice he made, choosing riches over following the Master of the universe”. Unfortunately, I think I am more alike to this young man than I think.

The Holy Spirit has a way of revealing our true heart, and as I have read this passage since I was young the Lord over time has shown me my true wicked self.
As an adult, I no longer read it and separate myself.
I no longer read this passage and frown upon his choice. No.
I read these verses and I see what Jesus is trying to explain to me in this short yet complex story.
Greed, covetousness, desire, call it what you will. It’s my sin…pure and simple.
I am the rich young ruler.

In a culture that screams, “YOLO. Have it your way. You deserve the best today. The customer is always right.” It can be difficult to discern on what and where our hearts should rest.
Being natural born sinners it can be difficult to make wise choices with our money, our time, and our thoughts.
In addition, I have four sets of eyes and ears watching and listening to me as I go about my day.
Watching where I spend my time. Watching where I spend my money. Watching what gets me excited and happy.
Listening to the words I use. Listening to how I verbalize my dis-contentedness with what I possess or don’t.
The enemy wants to destroy me…and you.
It would be easy for you and I to get bogged down by these things, because naturally we can’t win this fight by ourselves. The desire for things, more this, less of that, can become overwhelming and cause us to throw up our hands. But don’t give up just yet friends.

You see, Jesus has already won.
After 40 days and 40 nights of no eating, in His weakness, the enemy twisted God’s words and tempted Him with things that for you and me would have been easy to act like Esau, in Genesis, and give up our rights for some lentil soup and bread.
After sweating blood and counting the cost in His human tiredness He still carried out His blood offering of Himself for you…for me.
He has already won.
He has conquered death.
He has victory and in His graciousness has offered it to us.

Yes, you and I will still struggle with being greedy, being selfish, being discontent.
And yes, your children will struggle too.
But instead of being defeated, instead of getting frustrated at your children because they are selfish and egocentric, rather be encouraged.
Remember the man/woman in the mirror, the rich young ruler, and make a better choice than the one he did long ago.
Choose Jesus today.

Link We Like: Marriage on the Edge of Eternity

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God started the human race with a wedding and He will finish it with one.

Friends, if you are married, its important.
If you are single, its important.
If you are divorced, its important.
Marriage is important.

No matter what status we have on the matter, no matter what we have been through, as believers, we need to uphold the sanctity of the covenant of marriage.

Today we share a link we like by Francis Chan.
Take a few moments and be encouraged and challenged friends.
Check out the link HERE

 

A Plead for Courage

Take 5 minutes.
Grab your kleenex.
Read my beautiful friend’s heart felt letter to another young woman.

A while back I shared with you about my friend Kara Tippets (you can get to her blog here)
Faithful, Godly wife, young mom of four, just 36.
Dying of cancer.

This isn’t a light hearted or one of our regular posts. But I need to share.
I wanted to share with you a sincere letter she has written to another young woman who is also dying of cancer.
Kara, so eloquently pleads with this gal to reconsider a devastating choice she has already made.

Would you join with me in praying for Brittany.
Read Kara’s letter HERE

 

Set An Example

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Football.
Cross Country.
Soccer.
Softball.

If you’re like any of the thousands of other families around your state. One or all of your children are participating in a sport…or two. We Americans think very highly of our sports.

Each day in our country, thousands flock to stadiums of all levels to watch the game. From “bam-bam baseball” to the MLB, we love games. We love competition, and most importantly of course, we love to win!

There are many things we can learn from playing a sport:
teamwork, good work ethic, encouragement, the rules of the game, how to take turns…how to be a bad sport.

Unfortunately, along with watching my own children compete, I have been witness to many parents acting like fools in front of other adults, the opposing team and of course, their own children. This past weekend I was watching one of my sons, 14U-soccer team, play a nearby town for a regular season game. It was not the league championship and by no means was it anything more. Simply, a game.

I was actually sitting in a non-fan area since I had two little ones I had to keep my eye on while they played on the playground nearby. So I was a little surprised as the referee all of a sudden stopped the game and went over to the coaches and talked with each of them separately. Immediately our coach went over to our fans and politely asked them to keep their comments to themselves. Although the opposing coach did not follow suit. Which actually did not surprise me as he was angrily hollering at his own team most of the game.

When I asked my son if he knew what had happened he explained that the other team’s fans were being verbally disrespectful to the referee. It was a great ride home as we talked about how we should act when things don’t go our way and how we respond to disappointment in games…and in life. To act like fools over a game is pretty ridiculous in my mind. But more importantly what example are we setting for our children? As believers, what example of Christ are we being. I was reminded of 1 Timothy 4:12 says, “…be an example to other believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.” (HCSB)

If you are a believer.
If you are a parent.
Please heed these words of Paul.
When you’re in the stands,
set an example.